A Modern Woman’s Guide to Dating in Boston: The Secret to Success

One thing that a girl never need worry about when it comes to the Boston dating scene is getting bored. The city is just teeming with great places to meet fun and attractive Boston singles. From thriving nightclubs where you can mingle with tons of upbeat Boston singles, to fantastic restaurants more suitable for more intimate dating, Boston has it all.

So if you are ready to get out there and start dating, Boston is a great place to be. But let's face it, when it comes to dating, Boston women want to stay savvy. This article introduces three quick tips on the new etiquette of dating, Boston and beyond...

Gone are the simple days when a guy and a girl carefully followed pre-determined rules that dictated each step of their date. Dating has become a lot more complicated. The rules aren't set in stone anymore. And that's a good thing! But it does make certain situations more difficult to navigate. Who pays if it's just a first lunch date? Should you let a guy pick you up on a first date, or is it best to take separate cars? And what's the protocol on asking for that date in the first place? Don't let questions like these send you into a panic. After we go through the answers to two of these kinds of questions, you'll realize that the answers are much easier than you think!

So who asks who?

It's the first step and it's a notoriously hard one to make. But someone has to be the one to ask for that first date. In the past, men did all of the work. But now it's totally okay for a woman to approach a man and ask him out. You'll probably hear dozens of opinions on this subject. The more you ask, the more you'll realize that those opinions can differ. So what to do?

The answer is easy: do what makes you comfortable. If you feel that a man should make that first move, then hold back and wait. On the other hand, if you're comfortable asking a guy for his number or a date first, go for it. See, the most important thing is that you do what feels right to you. Some guys think it's a turn on when a woman is more aggressive. For some guys, it's a turn off. How can you tell what the guy will think of it? You can't! That's why it's best to be true to you. If a guy doesn't respond well to you being yourself, then he's not right for you anyway.

Who pays the check?

By this time, an entire book could be written debating the subject of who pays the bill. Some think the guy should always pay, especially on the first date. Some think it's okay and even desirable if the woman offers to pay the bill. And then there's the old trusty move of going Dutch, economical and balanced in such a way that no one owes anyone anything at the end of the date. So should you offer to pay or wait for his wallet to appear? Are you doomed to offend when bill time comes around?

You can't avoid the politics on this one. Yes, there's a chance that if you offer to pay you'll offend the guy. Men can be sensitive about things like that and you might bruise his ego. Then again, some men are very wary of women who never offer to pay. They don't want to feel as if a girl is only there for what she can get. And while going Dutch might seem the easiest way to strike a balance, it isn't very romantic to anyone. Again, the best way to handle this sticky situation in dating, Boston and elsewhere, is to just be you.

Just be yourself

These are just examples, but by now the real advice should be apparent. Modern Boston singles, men and women alike, can avoid dating blunders by being real. Think about it, when you are being yourself, a blunder isn't quite a blunder. It's just you showing who you are to another person. So, if you approach a guy and ask him out and he gets turned off by it, guess what? He's not the right guy for you. Move on. Same thing when it comes to who pays the check, and if the first date is too soon for that first kiss. When you know your own heart and mind and portray that to the person that you are with, you'll find dating much easier and more enjoyable.

Now, don't be afraid to be yourself and keep these tips in mind when you are dating. Boston is a huge city filled with attractive and interesting Boston singles so get out there and enjoy yourself!

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